Example 1: Relationship Problems and Clear Communication (Family Checkup)

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Transcript

(Scene 1: Mom gets defensive)

Daughter: Mom! Felicia just called and she said that she has an extra ticket to the concert next week. Can I go with her and her boyfriend?

Mom: No you can’t!

Daughter: Why not? I’ll be spending my own money and they can give me a ride up there.

Mom: The answer is no. You know I don’t like you hanging with those older kids.

Daughter: Why do you care who I spend my time with? Your busy all the time anyways, and when you do have free time your off with your boyfriend.

Mom: What Daniel and I do is our business. How dare you criticize my friend? Why, those kids you hang out with are nothing but trash. Don’t you have any self-respect?

(Scene 2: Mom remains calm and focused)

Daughter: Mom! Felicia just called and she said that she has an extra ticket to the concert next week. Can I go with her and her boyfriend?

Mom: Umm, I don’t think so.

Daughter: Why not? I’ll be spending my own money and they can give me a ride up there.

Mom: The answer is no. You know I have concerns about you and those other kids, and all the drugs going around today.

Daughter: Why all the sudden you are so concerned about what I do and who I spend my time with? You spend all your time with your boyfriend!

Mom: I do care what you do Charice. You are very important to me, and although I can hear what your saying, I do not like your tone of voice. I know! Let’s sit down together, just you and I. Let’s plan something fun! Something we could do together. It’s been a long time since we’ve done something like that.