Example 3: Destructive Behavior and Negotiation

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Scene 1: Dad gets angry

Dad speaking:

Sandra, get in here!

Sandra speaking:

What?

Dad speaking:

What's the meaning of this?

Sandra speaking:

I don't know.

Dad speaking:

Don't tell me that! Did you do this or didn't you?

Sandra speaking:

Yeah, I guess so.

Dad speaking:

What the hell did you do that for?

Sandra speaking:

You wouldn't let me go with my friends.

Dad speaking:

So if I don't let you go to your friends, you're gonna smash my things and think you'll get your way? Well you're mistaken! I'm gonna smash some of your CDs!

Sandra speaking:

You can't do that!

Dad speaking:

Well just try me!

Scene 2: Dad stays calm

Dad speaking:

Sandra come in here please. Did you do this?

Sandra speaking:

Yeah I guess so.

Dad speaking:

Was it because I wouldn't let you go with your friends?

Sandra speaking:

I don't know.

Dad speaking:

Sandra, being upset is okay, but destroying things to get your way is not a reasonable way of expressing your anger.

Sandra speaking:

I don't see why not. You're not reasonable with me.

Dad speaking:

Let's not get into that right now. What needs to happen first, is you need to clean this up. Then we need to sit down and talk about ways that you can get mad without destroying things.

Sandra speaking:

Well how am I supposed to do that?

Dad speaking:

Let's talk about that later. Let's get this cleaned up, okay?